Summary:
The rudest book ever written provides a new perspective on the world. It instructs people to consider “how to think” rather than “what to think.” It also confronts the issue of how to deal with rejection.
Who should read the book?
- Individuals who seek advice
- People who wish to make a difference in their lives
- People who believe their knowledge is sufficient
Lessons:
1. Compare yourself with your nation:
According to the author, one should consider themselves as a nation rather than an individual.
| No | Nation | You |
| 1 | Every country has its own constitution and set of laws for its citizens. | You should have your own constitution and laws as well. |
| 2 | A nation cannot run properly without a system of rules. | Likewise, regulations are necessary for every human being to live a better life. |
| 3 | A constitution establishes the underlying structure of a country’s political society. | it assists you in gaining control of yourself and thinking more about yourself. You can classify the good and bad items in your environment. |
| 4 | It determines the kind of governance it will use, as well as its functions in the political community and the limits on its authority. | Similarly, your self-esteem will aid you in dealing with life’s obstacles. |
| 5 | If a war is declared, a country’s military will protect it. | Similarly, you should cultivate positive relationships with others. |
| 6 | Each country has its own constitution, yet one country cannot rule another. | So don’t think you can control someone else. |
2. Parents aren’t experts:
This may be impolite, but it’s the truth. Even if your parents are the most important people in your life, they do not know everything there is to know. Do not believe that your parents will fix all of your problems. To put it another way, don’t expect your parents to be able to solve all of your issues. However, because they are also humans, they will be unable to discover a suitable answer to all of your concerns. Right?
3. Don’t judge people:
Let me ask you a question. What do you think about people? What are your thoughts about people? Your response could be that people are perplexing, that I don’t comprehend them, or that people are complex. You either love or hate people. But why is that? Your responses are dependent on your interactions with others.
If you have had a positive encounter, your response will be positive. If you have an unpleasant encounter, your response will be negative. People are described as weird by the author. Based on our interactions with them, we believe that some people are nice and others are bad. But, in truth, people change depending on their circumstances. So don’t judge people based on one incident. Nobody is either good or bad. So, don’t judge people. Because they are weird.
To know better about people, to know why people behave in certain manner read this article: 5 best books on human behavior: How to handle negative people?
4. Specialness:
What is special? The harsh reality is that we want the recognition of others. We want people to think of us as special. We want everyone to remark, “You are special.” And we’re overjoyed about it. Imagine your friends and family telling you, “You are special.” Just because people utter this word doesn’t mean you’re special. Why? To obtain this form of appreciation, you must exhibit attributes such as humility, beauty, kindness, respect, and so on. But only you know who you truly are.
People aren’t even competent to claim someone is special. Don’t expect others to refer to you as “special.” Rather, ask yourself whether you are special. Don’t let others make judgments about you.
5. First impressions are dilutions:
Don’t make quick judgments about people based on their first impressions. Why? Allow me to give you an example. When you meet someone for the first time, what will happen? He or she will address you nicely, politely, and respectfully. They are not deceiving you, but the fact is that everyone wants to impress others. This is the true source of our difficulty.
Consider your own perspective: how would you treat someone for the first time if you met them for the first time? You will undoubtedly strive to make a favorable impression. Right? As a result, you tend to act more like someone else than yourself. Others will do the same thing. As a result, never evaluate someone based on their first impression.
6. Observe:
Observe people gain a deeper understanding of them. Take note of the minor details about them. Don’t make assumptions about someone if you don’t have enough facts.
7. Rejections are just that:
This world is a jungle, and people compete with one another. How many times in your life have you been rejected? So, what is the end result? There could be two responses.
- The first is whether you will be depressed. You will become agitated and develop insecurities. You begin to have doubts about your ability. Your confidence will begin to diminish as your self-doubt grows.
- The second is that the rejection will motivate you. You will be tremendously driven by the rejection. What if you start thinking, “Wait, I’ll show you who I am,” and it actually happens?
Which reaction is good? The first or the second? Both are wrong. You must not become demotivated or motivated. So, how do you handle rejection? First and foremost, you must recognize that you are not the cause of the rejection. The solution is that you should not be affected by rejections. You establish your own self-worth, not others’. Nobody knows you better than you know yourself. Rejection should neither motivate nor demotivate you. If you become motivated or demotivated, it suggests you are awaiting permission from someone. Don’t let others determine your abilities. Nobody is perfect enough to reject others.
8. Don’t chase happiness:
Instead of seeking happiness, seek satisfaction. Happiness knows no bounds. If you find happiness in anything, you will want more of it. So look for fulfillment in all you do. Don’t go after happiness.
9. Self:
What exactly is “self”? Your inner voice is yourself. We’d rather listen to it. We generally do things to please others rather than ourselves. Why? We do not value ourselves. One should be aware of and appreciate one’s own worth. When you allow others to judge you, your self-esteem suffers. When you delegate decision-making authority to others, your confidence suffers. Remember that no one knows you better than you. Rather than wasting time satisfying others, take time to appreciate yourself. Pay attention to what you’re saying to yourself.
10. Stop following and start admiring:
How many films have you seen in your life? In those fictional films, no matter what the plot is, the hero always wins. As a result, the villain will always be the loser. The thing we must grasp is that the heroes in movies are not actual heroes. It’s just a show, and it’s nothing to think about for the rest of your life. We began to admire, follow, and become fans of heroes after seeing movies. But do you know what their true personality is?
We will mindlessly follow superstars simply because they are adorable and have fictitious attributes in movies. Remember that you admire the character in the film, not the actor who plays that character. One thing we must remember is that there are no heroes or villains in real life. At last, everyone is a human. And people are weird. To examine the people, admire the people, and don’t blindly follow. Make decisions based on your analysis. You are the hero of your own story.
11. Perfection exists only online:
The ugly reality is that we believe what individuals post on Instagram, Facebook, or whatever social media platform they use. People always publish to gain shares and likes. To acquire shares and likes, they must post in a way that impresses others. They pretend to have everything. They pretend to be perfect. They seemed to be living happy life. But do you know what’s going on deep down inside their hearts?
Just because someone is wealthy does not imply that they are happy. Simply because somebody purchases a Rolls Royce does not imply that he is a millionaire. What do you think actual millionaires will do? Read on to learn about the characteristics of true millionaires: Myths and false impression on millionaire. To return to the original argument, people are always pretending on social media. We believe that was true and have decided to live like those people. We began to compare ourselves to them, which led to poor decisions. Don’t judge someone based on their social media posts. because their lives are very different from what they share on social media.
12. Relationship:
If you believe that having a partner would make you happy, you are mistaken. That is not to say that being in a relationship is bad. A relationship is a partnership, according to the true definition. Happiness is determined by how you treat your partner. When you believe that having a spouse would make you happy, you begin to have higher expectations of your mate. As a result, you always anticipate that your partner will make you happy. And this is not how the relationship works. A happy relationship is one in which you do not expect anything from your partner and instead give everything to them. You are the only one who can define what happiness means to you.
13. How to think:
People will tell you what to think from the moment you are born. Nobody, however, will teach you how to think. Why didn’t they teach you? Because people, even if they are grownups, still do not know how to think. They only know what they are thinking. Now comes the matter of how to think. The solution is straightforward. Rather than relying on others, deal with your own problems. We now have Google, so whatever problem you ask in Google, it will provide a variety of solutions. How would you then know how to think? Don’t rely on Google or others to solve your situation. Think for yourself. Find a solution. Practice whenever you come across a problem.
Finally, these are the lessons I’ve taken away from this book. I agree that some lessons are rude and difficult to accept. However, certain lessons made me wonder why I had never considered this before. A book that makes you think is undoubtedly a good book. Anyway, I hope you found this article useful. Let us know what you think about this article and what makes you think!